We have already talked about following up on other occasions, and today, I would like to focus on a typical situation: you call somebody and there is an answering machine. As you expected to talk to a person on the other side, you might hesitate, go blank or decide to hang up and call back later.
You don’t know if that person cannot pick up the phone, is ignoring it or talking to someone else.
Well, I’m going to give you some guidelines that will solve your doubts and make the follow-up process much faster and much less uncomfortable in such situations. It is about always having a plan B.
Let’s start with a typical scene: you call somebody and bump into an answering machine. Instead of hanging up, leave a message telling you will call back another time. Look at your schedule and try to make it the next day about the same time, if possible. The other person should hear the message. They can call you back or wait for the agreed time, when, hopefully, they will answer.
If they answer the call, it’s great, so take the opportunity to say that you left a message making a new appointment because you understood that the person was busy with something important. Say it confidently, because there is no proof that it’s not so, it really could have happened. That person may want to share the reason for their absence or not, the important thing is that you talk as you have agreed.
But what if they don’t answer?
Well, be patient and have good manners. That person may be ignoring you, but to be fair, they may not really be able to answer the phone. If you bump into the answering machine for the third time, in your next voice message, instead of simply proposing another time to talk, ask if everything is going well and remind that they can talk to you about matters other than the business, get some support. It’s not a matter of always thinking the worst, but of keeping the mind open and be empathic. We don’t know what is happening in the lives of others. Tell them to let you know if everything is okay.
If the person returns the call, at least it means that they don’t want to get you worried or that they understand that it’s not very professional to ignore calls without any reason. If they don’t call you ever, well, keep in touch with the other people on your list and tick that phone number red, because you will probably not call anymore.
If the person does answer the phone, but at least three times in a row, they tell you they haven’t had time to think about the proposal, that moment or that week isn’t good for them and they always say “we’ll talk next week “, most likely they won’t get past that point. Press a little or let it go.
An important part of your planning is visualization. It’s also part of the law of attraction that you can use so as to create a more positive and successful life.
But to visualize is much more than to imagine something briefly. To visualize is to SEE it in your mind, to really see it, to actually be in that image, to study it and to assimilate it.
So, practice with these tips how to get a more complete and useful visualization.
The first thing is to find a quiet place.
It can be in your own room, whenever you are alone, or any other corner of the house. But it is important that there is no noise and nobody disturbs you. Try doing it outdoors, if you can, for example, in the garden or in a park. That mixture of tranquillity and nature will inspire you even more.
You must sit in a position where you are comfortable and don’t get distracted or want to move. You will need to be in that position for a while, so it must be one that you forget right away and get relaxed, because the next step is to empty your mind.
Close your eyes, relax and clear your mind. One way to do this is by concentrating only on the rhythm of your breathing, which must be slow and deep.
Not only will you see it as a concept, you will see it as a clear memory of something that is yet to come. Visualize the moment when you reach your goal in all the details. Where does it happen? How are you feeling? What people are there with you? You can visualize much more, even the clothes you’re wearing, if there is music or there are people talking, how you react to that moment, etc…
You can write down your visualization in your diary and resume or expand it the next day. That visualization helps you to follow the plan in more detail and with more determination, in addition to attracting a very positive energy that will be the impeller of your plans.
Come on, visualize!
Happiness is not the end of the road; it’s not the final prize we must win. Happiness is, in fact, the mood that should be natural in all people. And it is also one of the best tools to fulfil your dreams, plans and make other people happy too.
Happiness is a raw material that we use to create thousands of wonderful things in life. But as a material, it needs space. It needs a lot of space where to be able to grow, to be able to create. But we are constantly stuffing that space with other things that don’t do us any good.
If you want to make more room for happiness to grow and help you grow, you have to set yourself free…
From the opinions of other people.
Constantly trying to meet the expectations of others and not your own ones is a very suffocating way of living. It doesn’t leave room for your dreams, nor even to breathe calmly in your own skin. Break free from the need to live according to the opinions of others, so you can be free to discover how you really want to live your life.
From the past.
The past has already happened. It had its good things and its bad things, but you shouldn’t live those good past things again and again so as not to face the control of your future. Nor can you constantly avoid negative memories to keep yourself from making decisions or moving forward. The past is there to know where we come from, to see the way travelled, to learn from the good and from the bad, but always looking forward, not backward.
The fear of “what if I’m wrong?” The fear of “what if I’m not good enough?” And all those fears that become anxiety about the future. If you’re wrong, you’ll learn something. If you’re not good enough, it is because you were not fully prepared, not because you will never achieve it. All those questions have their answer, and the answer is that it’s ok. Because no matter what happens, there will always be another opportunity, another day, and any setback only makes you stronger. Stop fearing and you will begin to experience, to grow and to live.
You cannot have a positive and happy life if you have negative and destructive behaviour towards others. Stop judging and criticizing and save that energy to create positive changes in your life and in that of those around you.
There is no excuse, be responsible for what you do and what you don’t do. If you can change something, change it.
If you have time to complain about it, you have time to find a solution. Activate the most positive part of your brain, always look for solutions and your problems will cease to exist because they will no longer be problems, just puzzles to solve.
From the restrictions.
Not only the limits that you set mentally with your insecurities, but also the bonds that you create when you decide to make a plan that has no room for change. From those walls that you create around yourself when you want everything to work out in a very strict way and you are not flexible, when you are not open to change. You restrict your path to a single straight line when life is something larger and full of infinite paths and intersections.
Get rid of all that and you will be able to enjoy life much more and able to make any project a reality. You will stop seeing the negative side in situations and in people; you will have a more creative and resolute mind. You will see the world full of infinite possibilities. And you will be happier and, consequently, much more successful.