Happiness is not the end of the road; it’s not the final prize we must win. Happiness is, in fact, the mood that should be natural in all people. And it is also one of the best tools to fulfil your dreams, plans and make other people happy too.
Happiness is a raw material that we use to create thousands of wonderful things in life. But as a material, it needs space. It needs a lot of space where to be able to grow, to be able to create. But we are constantly stuffing that space with other things that don’t do us any good.
If you want to make more room for happiness to grow and help you grow, you have to set yourself free…
From the opinions of other people.
Constantly trying to meet the expectations of others and not your own ones is a very suffocating way of living. It doesn’t leave room for your dreams, nor even to breathe calmly in your own skin. Break free from the need to live according to the opinions of others, so you can be free to discover how you really want to live your life.
From the past.
The past has already happened. It had its good things and its bad things, but you shouldn’t live those good past things again and again so as not to face the control of your future. Nor can you constantly avoid negative memories to keep yourself from making decisions or moving forward. The past is there to know where we come from, to see the way travelled, to learn from the good and from the bad, but always looking forward, not backward.
The fear of “what if I’m wrong?” The fear of “what if I’m not good enough?” And all those fears that become anxiety about the future. If you’re wrong, you’ll learn something. If you’re not good enough, it is because you were not fully prepared, not because you will never achieve it. All those questions have their answer, and the answer is that it’s ok. Because no matter what happens, there will always be another opportunity, another day, and any setback only makes you stronger. Stop fearing and you will begin to experience, to grow and to live.
You cannot have a positive and happy life if you have negative and destructive behaviour towards others. Stop judging and criticizing and save that energy to create positive changes in your life and in that of those around you.
There is no excuse, be responsible for what you do and what you don’t do. If you can change something, change it.
If you have time to complain about it, you have time to find a solution. Activate the most positive part of your brain, always look for solutions and your problems will cease to exist because they will no longer be problems, just puzzles to solve.
From the restrictions.
Not only the limits that you set mentally with your insecurities, but also the bonds that you create when you decide to make a plan that has no room for change. From those walls that you create around yourself when you want everything to work out in a very strict way and you are not flexible, when you are not open to change. You restrict your path to a single straight line when life is something larger and full of infinite paths and intersections.
Get rid of all that and you will be able to enjoy life much more and able to make any project a reality. You will stop seeing the negative side in situations and in people; you will have a more creative and resolute mind. You will see the world full of infinite possibilities. And you will be happier and, consequently, much more successful.