Looking in the mirror is sometimes more than just checking your clothes, hair or make-up. It’s much more than a morning or night ritual when brushing our teeth and reviewing the day. It’s a moment when we have to look at ourselves.
Sometimes, the mirror becomes a window with views at our reflections, the brightest and the most positive ones or the most worrisome and depressing. It always depends on what you really have in your head. When there are more shadows than lights, you may find yourself looking at that figure, on the other side of the reflection, and see the disappointment, anger or simply, and in most of these cases, indifference and defeatism that don’t help anything.
If you are reading this, it’s likely that at some point in your life you have experienced something like that: you look in the mirror and you cannot avoid thinking if that face reflects self-confidence or rather the opposite, if you look tired, maybe you are becoming too old to try new things, and you can see it in your eyes. And what is worse, that you have wasted the time that has passed by now. And that, my friend, is not the way to start a day. And, of course, such day cannot give you anything but disappointments because you would already have set the tone for the rest of the day.
But your enemy is not the mirror. It’s clear that in this case, your only enemy is yourself. You will have these thoughts, even if you don’t look at your reflection, but you have decided to use that moment in front of the mirror to give them a more tangible form: that version of you on the other side who you can blame for your faults.
Your inner dialogue, watch the tone.
As I told you, even before you are aware of that self-criticism in front of the mirror, you have already been whispering bad things about yourself. In such a low voice that they simply have been slipping among other thoughts, but little by little they are getting stronger. The most important thing about these words, these thoughts… is that they are a lie. They are thoughts whose purpose is to always keep us in a familiar environment, safe, without risk. But you are noticing that by paying heed to these thoughts, all you get is unhappiness. It’s easy to think that you are destined for mediocrity, it’s part of our survival system, something very primitive that stands between you and your true self.
Believe in yourself, nobody will if you don’t.
If you are not satisfied with your life so far, the solution is not to spend the rest of the coming years blaming yourself for not having done anything. What you should do is take charge, make a promise and then fulfil it. You cannot change the past, but the future doesn’t exist until you start writing it.
Love what you see in the reflection.
Use the mirror as a way of communicating with the inside of your own mind that is not yet convinced that you can make the change. Tell it that everything will be fine, it can be done. Tell it how clever it is, remind it of the talents you know you have. In other words, learn to accept the greatness that is in you. Start the morning by generating a positive and motivating dialogue with yourself.
Soon, the moment will come when you look in the mirror casually, and everything you’ll see will be the reflection of a person you admire and a life that you wanted. Everything starts with your attitude. Change the way you see yourself and change the world around you.