Month: April 2017

I’m pretty sure that you, whoever you are and whatever the age is, who is reading my article right now, have tried at least a couple of diets throughout your life. And it’s likely that you still have the temptation to try some new one for the sake of your health, or maybe even your shape.

As for that, I can tell you that the true diet that can best come to your body is simply one in which you pay attention to what you are really eating and what it brings to your body and your health. It is always about avoiding that which is toxic to us in one way or another.

But in our life in general, we could also do something similar.

What if I put my whole life on a diet? You may experience a radical change in it.

How can I put my life on a diet? It’s very easy, we just have to reach a balance between things that suit us and make us feel good and those that don’t’ suit us. There are toxic elements that we can avoid in our lives, just as we would avoid those we know to be bad for our health.

– Negative thoughts:
Stop feeding your brain with bad thoughts. Negativity has a big and horrible impact on your life. It takes away your energy, then make yourself believe that everything is worse than it seems and doesn’t let you enjoy the achievements and good things about your everyday life. Negative thoughts also make you lose focus or even undermine your plans!

– Negative people:
Nothing is more toxic to your new vital state than the people who are going to fill your head with their negativity, criticizing everything you do and scuttering your dreams. There are people who will never let you fly high and who try to keep you within a false and grey reality. The worst thing is that they do it because they think they should. And there are also people who are simply toxic by themselves.
You have to put an end to that, call the attention of those who want to change their “intake of bad thoughts,” and if they don’t want to change… you will be better off without listening to their negative comments every day.

– Insecurity:
It’s difficult to get rid of the insecurity since it’s something that lies within us, that is implanted deeply and always accompanies us. It’s a negative part of us that doesn’t let us be who we are meant to be, because we think we don’t deserve it. Learn to value yourself more, to believe more in your talents and in what you already have to offer.

What we can add to our diet of life:

– Knowledge:
Adds new skills and experiences that will also help keep insecurities away and our self-esteem well up. Besides that, it will give us a possibility to be better at our work and will bring positive results in the long term.

– Positivity:
Positivity is not thinking that everything will turn out well without having to do anything, or ignore problems or conflicts. Positivity is to be able to focus on the solution rather than the problem itself.

– Gratitude:
Add a few hints of gratitude every day. Be thankful for what you have today and the people who support you, for every night and day, for what has gone well during the day. And you will see that it will always outnumber what may not have worked out so well. We must stop putting the whole focus always on the wrong side.

Try this diet without skipping a single day for at least a month, and you will see how your life will change drastically. And not only that, it will be the only diet that will never leave once you have tried it!

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We talk, debate, read, analyze and write about the qualities of a leader. But from my point of view, one of the best ever is the balance between humanity and the leadership skills.

In the skills we can include many of the qualities which we speak about generally, those focused on business, organizational abilities. Those that make you have solutions even before a problem appears. And humanity is what we also can call empathy, compassion, personal involvement… It definitely is an important factor.

My opinion is that both components, the rational one and the emotional one, are complementary and necessary, with no exceptions. You must want to be a trustful leader, with the most sincere affection for the people you work with. And yet, you also want respect and your ideas to be useful for everyone and to be taken into account. You also must be competent, not just a friend. But being that without trust is not authentic leadership, it’s simply an imposed authority. And trust and affection without the skills and ambition is not leadership, if you don’t get success. Simple, right?

Well, true, but the issue is even more complicated. Or rather, more complex.

You see. Not only is the balance between both sides is necessary, but also the order in which we begin to build up you leadership with regard to relationships with members of your organization. While strength, skills and ambition are elements that help us to prove that we are capable of doing the job, we should not express them too much when making new contacts and especially when dealing with our teams. You may actually seem to be over-controlling or disinterested in people’s needs. Influence begins with human relationships, and human relationships are not based on numbers or results … they are based on understanding and humanity. This is a kind of business where the greatest force that moves everything is human relationships. That is, people.

Focus on connecting with people first, on taking care about relationships, on proving yourself trustful, showing honesty and listening to others. It’s not too complicated, but if it’s something you think you cannot do, then you’re probably working in the wrong industry. Consider other people’s needs and never forget them, create solid and long-term relationships with these people.

Then, once you have created stable relationships, then your skills, strength and leadership abilities come into play, so that the people you work with feel, apart from happy, sure to be working with the right person, a person who knows what to do and how it should be done.

Those who first show their skills and leave behind human relationships become threatening, authoritarian figures, people who, in the long run, even though they are very skillful, produce mistrust and lack and comfort. They make people around feel unhappy to work on their own team, have fear each time their leader wants to talk to them. Or those people just dont’t find anything useful in your words, because they may sound like an automatic lesson, empty of honesty.

In short, now that you know the “why”: build up relationships first, then use your knowledge and your leadership skills to lead the team. And keep a healthy balance between business and human relationships throughout the whole story. That could be the best quality a leader can develop.


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